Just how much one tiny, insignificant thing that a person of no real importance says, can make such a huge difference to your self esteem.
I was thinking about it the other day. I have an ex, who was a total utter douche bag - in the worst form of the word. I honestly have no idea what I was thinking being with him, but I was young and stupid. Anyway, that is of no importance, he is so meaningless nowadays to me.
BUT... Words that he said while we were together still haunt me today. My self esteem is so bruised from the things he said.
I am so paranoid of certain things about my body because he would complain about them all the time.
E.G. Hair. Have you ever tried being with the person you thought you loved while they spent the whole time telling you to start shaving because it was disgusting?
And now I wonder why I get so paranoid if I'm not completely bare.
Maybe too much info, but it's been bugging me the last couple of days.
How can someone so totally insignificant, manage to make me completely petrified of letting anyone close if I haven't been to see the wax lady?
Has anyone else ever had to deal with shit like that? What can you do to get over it? I'd love to know.
Hey,
ReplyDeleteI deal with a dad like that. Well, not about having hairy legs or whatever, but about my weight.
He's forever on to me about it.
The only suggestion I can offer is to look at yourself in the mirror (naked if preferred ;) ) and look at yourself, and ask, are YOU happy with how you are. If you don't care that there is a little bit of hair, then stuff the rest, who else's opinion matters?
If you think to yourself that YOU don't like it, then go to the wax lady :)
It may take a while, but eventually (I hope) you will look and say, what that douchebag said, is because I was doing what he wanted... not what I want.
I agree with the above comment- who gives a fuck if everyone else has a problem?
ReplyDeleteI haven't waxed in over 2 months now and I don't care AT ALL... I'll do it when I feel like doing it.
Just be you and be happy with yourself! That's all that matters, darlin'. :)